Therapist Neurodiversity Collective does not use ABA in our therapy practices to address aggressive behaviors, destructive behaviors, self-injurious behaviors, or melt-downs. Here are just a few of the resources we recommend. The list is in no way comprehensive, and we add to it when we find resources:

Resources:

Autism Level Up!

A checklist for identifying sources of aggression

Treating self-injurious behaviors in autism spectrum disorder
“Self-injurious behavior is a cry for help.”
“ABA therapists use an FBA to look at both the antecedent and the consequence of SIBs in order to hypothesize the function of SIBs. It is unclear why one would assume such an assessment/analysis would also be appropriate to assess the thoughts, feelings, and other internal processes that often determine the function of self-injurious behaviors (especially since we know this is the case for SIBs in the non-autistic population). Instead of approaching these SIBs and understanding them the way we understand SIBs in other populations, we have misapplied an FBA in an attempt to measure SIBs despite the fact that it cannot measure such a construct. This makes the assessment unscientific and methodologically flawed.”
Gary Shkedy, Dalia Shkedy & Aileen H. Sandoval-Norton | Luca Cerniglia (Reviewing editor) (2019) 01 Nov 2019. Journal Cogent Psychology Volume 6, 2019 – Issue 1. 6:1, DOI: 10.1080/23311908.2019.1682766

Autism and sensory processing: Avoiding the sensory overload at the root of meltdowns

Psychotherapy Networker – In Consultation: Seeing Children through a Polyvagal Lens. By Mona Delahooke. January/February 2020
“…I came to appreciate the importance of understanding that all behaviors have meaning. Rather than focusing on eliminating them, we need to understand the adaptive purposes they serve for each child.” 

The problem with behaviorism – There are better ways to work with behaviorally challenging children

The Problem of Attributing Negative Intentionality to Autistic Behavior

You Asked: Supporting children with self-injurious stims

How much compliance is too much compliance: Is long-term ABA therapy abuse?

How Teachers Can Take A More Compassionate Approach to Behaviors

Autism and Behaviorism -New Research Adds to an Already Compelling Case Against ABA

Autistic Insights on Meltdowns, Aggression, and Self-Injury

Understanding Autism, Aggression, and Self-Injury: Medical Approaches and Best Support Practices

“Self-Injurious Behaviors” ~ Let’s Discuss

Behaviour Analysis, The Autistic Way

If not ABA, then what?

Presuming competence: the only prerequisite to AAC

First-Hand Perspectives on Behavioral Interventions for Autistic People and People with other Developmental Disabilities

THE MISBEHAVIOUR OF BEHAVIOURISTS

Quiet Hands

Tackling That Troublesome Issue of ABA and Ethics